Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say.
(This captures my basic essence a couple years ago beautifully: bald headed and bound up in my own uncertainty)
It is so easy to get caught up in what we think we should say whether it be the real truth, partial truth, or outright opposite to how we really feel.
As usual, I’ve learned that often times we are speaking and certainly acting out of fear, conditioning, and/or false beliefs not yet healed.
“The first step is recognizing that what we are saying isn’t necessarily matching up with our intentions.”
The first step is recognizing that what we are saying isn’t necessarily matching up with our intentions. I find that a simple way to know is by dropping your attention down to your heart of hearts, where your Truth lies. Take a slow deep breath, ground yourself and ask, “is this True?” You'll be met with a calm serenity if it is your truth and it makes life and navigating uncertainty a heck of a lot easier.
It also helps to keep the communication flowing freely between friends, family, partners and co-workers by coming out with how we really feel, especially when we do it kindly.
“You’ll be amazed at how much room it frees up for healing and joyful things.“
Feel you owe someone an apology or your own feelings were hurt but you don’t want to rock the boat or cause a scene? Avoiding discussing something to avoid drama? ...Drop down into your heart and find out if it needs addressing and healing and if so, the right words will come. They
might not always be well received if the other party isn’t ready themselves for the truth, but you’ll know it’s the right thing to do. You’ll be amazed at how much room it frees up for healing and joyful things.
I hadn‘t realized just how little my thoughts and intentions lined up with my actions until around a year ago.
As many know, for me it was largely the manifestation of mental, emotional and physical imbalances due to unhealed early childhood trauma that was keeping me from feeling safe and free enough to speak my Truth in any given situation and to be my authentic self.
“Looking back it seems so tragically obvious, but it was a lesson I needed to learn in my own time.“
I often appeared confident while really feeling
confused and struggling with a nagging feeling of unease and indecisiveness.
Looking back it seems so tragically obvious, but it was a lesson I needed to learn in my own time: the importance of healing trauma and false beliefs to free up space for the truth and the ability to speak my whole mind and to feel safe doing so. This freed up space for physical healing as well.
Something magical happens when we finally choose to free ourselves from the toxic ties that bind us to stifling our authentic voices and tweaking our message to make others more comfortable or to subconsciously make ourselves seem smaller, which is what I had been doing.
Another way we subconsciously ‘stay small’ is to half-ass our intentions and half-heartedly say what we are going to do without really meaning it or feeling into it.
I find that the more feeling I put into it while I think or say it, the more energy it brings and the more likely it is to happen. But first I have to believe it.
“...This is when I find that stating an intention to change is most helpful.”
This is where it can get hairy because at times we truly need to believe something that we don‘t already in order to make it a reality. This is when I find that stating an intention to change is most helpful.
For example, I’m currently still struggling with tapering from certain medications and although I do believe I can get off of them, it might not happen right now for varying reasons.
Instead of thinking, “Forget it, it‘s never going to happen“ or reversely, overconfidently proclaiming, “I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I’ll be off by summer’s end!” I will think “I intend to get off these last two meds as soon as able.“ It isn’t unrealistic and also I do feel it to be true; I mean it with all of my heart.
”Perhaps of equal importance is the understanding that I will be okay no matter what happens...“
Perhaps of equal importance is the understanding that I will be okay no matter what happens, which I also truly believe in my heart. After lots of practice, I no longer have to set aside special meditation time, but I live with a ‘knowing’ now and a mindfulness in my daily life that I didn’t have before.
It can be a bit of a balancing act but really, it remains true that you can’t go wrong by saying what you mean and meaning what you say. If what you mean and say aren’t how you‘d like them to be and don’t match how you want to feel or what you wish to manifest, know that you are perfectly safe in wanting to believe you can change.
Daily affirmations stating your intentions while feeling into them and taking baby steps to achieve them will begin to flow you where you want to go.
Perhaps you‘ll encounter some waves and choppy waters along the way, but you’ll undoubtedly land on shore where you’re meant to be. And of course, if you get weary during your journey towards land, you can always surrender and let go, just lie back and float. Breathe fully and deeply, look to the sky and enjoy the view. You are safe and you are held. Always. 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Thank you for reading and as always, feel free to share this or any of my posts with anyone they might resonate with. It becomes clearer every day that a big part of my life’s purpose is to share with others the things which were vital to my own healing transformation and I’m forever thankful to those whose messages helped me on my own journey.
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